
Nobody Told You Which Expectations to Lower and That’s the Problem
Someone handed you that advice early. Maybe it was another physician spouse, someone a little further ahead, someone who looked like she had it figured

Someone handed you that advice early. Maybe it was another physician spouse, someone a little further ahead, someone who looked like she had it figured

She was standing at the kitchen sink, halfway through the dishes, kids fed, lunches packed, school drop-off done. And that is when it hit her:

Katie reached out to me during her husband’s transition from medical school to residency. She wasn’t drowning yet. She was just smart enough to ask

You are capable. You are organized. You have held things together through every hard season so far. And still, somewhere quiet, underneath the competence, there

You waited years for residency to end, but the “pot of gold” didn’t fix the exhaustion. Learn why life after training feels hard and how to start thriving again.

You’ve checked all the boxes you were supposed to.Training is (mostly) behind you, your partner is finally practicing, the kids are…managed-ish, and life beside medicine