Episode 5: When Lowering Expectations Goes Too Far
July 1st is the medical world’s New Year—and whether you’re just starting out or well into the journey, you’ve probably heard the advice: “Lower your expectations.” In today’s episode, Kendra and Katie unpack this all-too-common mantra and explore the cost of lowering expectations too far.
From unspoken relationship contracts to the logistics of life on a resident’s salary, we talk about what kinds of expectations should flex—and which ones should never be compromised.
💬 We explore:
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The danger of turning survival strategies into a permanent way of life
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The difference between logistical and relational expectations
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How small actions (like a card at breakfast) can maintain connection
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When and how to renegotiate your “relationship contract”
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Why emotional safety, respect, and partnership are non-negotiables
You’ll leave with reflection questions to help you re-center your values and create conversations that protect your emotional well-being and your relationship.
✨ Reflection question: Where have you lowered expectations to avoid disappointment—and is it serving your relationship?
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