Hi, I'm Kendra

I’ve been married to a neurosurgeon since 2003. I’ve lived every season of medicine, from residency with four young children to attending life and I know firsthand that external stability doesn’t automatically create internal peace. I spent years waiting to feel better. When that didn’t happen on its own, I started untangling who I had become inside survival mode. Now, as a Professional Certified Coach, I help physician spouses do the same.

Episode 41 Match Week: What Happens When Your Partner Doesn’t Match

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Match Week can bring confetti and celebrations, but it can also bring grief, uncertainty, and a week that feels like a blur. Today we’re talking about all four possible outcomes of the Match, for physician spouses who are holding their breath, managing the logistics of a potential move, and trying to stay steady while everything feels up in the air.

In this episode, we talk about:

What the NRMP match process actually is and what it means for your family’s next three to seven years
All four Match Week outcomes, with real numbers behind them, so you know you’re not alone no matter where you land
The SOAP process: what it looks like, how fast it moves, and how to prepare yourself and your family before it happens
How to protect your relationship and your own emotional wellbeing no matter the outcome

You’ll hear:

A raw, honest conversation with Amy, a PA, girl mom of three, and marathoner whose husband went through SOAP not once, but twice, and the two miracles that came out of it
What Amy wishes she’d known going in, including the grief of losing a future that “wasn’t even your dream, but was still yours”
Practical advice you can act on right now: how to emotionally prepare for SOAP, what to have ready logistically, and how to pump up your partner when their confidence takes a hit

This episode is especially for you if:

You’re heading into Match Week and already feel that mix of excitement and dread you can’t quite tell apart
Your partner is pursuing a competitive specialty and SOAP feels like a real possibility
You matched somewhere that wasn’t your first choice and you’re trying to figure out how to grieve and be grateful at the same time
You didn’t match at all and you need someone to tell you this is not the end

Links & resources mentioned:

Download our free Match Survival Guide, with reflection prompts and practical tools for all four outcomes:
Leave us a voicemail with your best advice for a spouse going through Match Season right now: ‪(214) 810-0468‬

Stay connected:

Follow us on Instagram: @supportingphysicianspouses @kendra_itgetsbetternow
Learn more about coaching: www.itgetsbetternow.com

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Life After Survival Mode

A private reflection guide for physician spouses who thought it would feel better by now.

HI, I’M KENDRA

I’ve been married to a neurosurgeon since 2003. I’ve lived every season of medicine, from residency with four young children to attending life, and I know firsthand that external stability doesn’t automatically create internal peace. I spent years waiting to feel better. When that didn’t happen on its own, I started untangling who I had become inside survival mode. Now, as a Professional Certified Coach, I help physician spouses do the same.